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Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Tue, 13 Jan 2009 03:37:42 GMT

Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha, Kiss my ass and Fuck off. You know who you are.

Saturday, January 03, 2009

Sat, 03 Jan 2009 04:00:47 GMT

Happy New Year, (Yes, I know it said it already)

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Thursday, January 01, 2009

Thu, 01 Jan 2009 09:35:55 GMT

Happy New Year Everyone!

Oh Gosh

Sun, 07 Dec 2008 02:15:47 GMT

So here's my dilemma. I am butt tired but I feel this urge to move about and clean my room. What do I do in a case like this? I am so conflicted. My room needs a major overhaul too. I found the keys I lost but I still haven't found that document. Where did I put that damn thing? I thought I knew and I checked the location but it wasn't there. Obviously I was thinking of something else. Are there anyways of strengthening your memory cuz I seriously need to do that. Any suggestions?

Girls, keep your eyes open

Thu, 04 Dec 2008 02:38:37 GMT

You can read the article at http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems/lnscheating/0,,nt4p-2,00.html

32 Emotional Signs That He's Cheating

by Raymond B. Green with psychological input from Marcella Bakur Weiner, Ed.D.

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An excerpt from 180 Telltale Signs Mates Are Cheating and How to Catch Them

Think your mate might be having an affair? Find out if he is displaying any of the warning signals described by Raymond B. Green, a private investigator and former police officer, and Marcella Bakur, a psychology professor at Marymount Manhattan College. Here, the 32 emotional signs that he is having an affair:

1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of his or her affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues.

2. Your mate begins buying you gifts — lots of gifts. These are "guilt gifts" purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him or her feel better.

3. Your mate's behavior is causing a gut feeling in you that something isn't right. If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your mate's habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change.

4. Your mate frequently picks fights with you. Doing this gives him reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he is feeling about betraying you.

5. Your mate constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue. She says things like, "What would you do if our relationship ended?" or "If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend." In general, she seems very negative about your relationship. Your mate makes these statements because she has a lover to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious.

6. Your mate becomes very moody. He or she seems very upbeat and excited when leaving you but acts somber and depressed when around you. If your mate is in a long-term affair, he/she will try to keep both relationships running smoothly. Any problems the cheater has in one relationship will spill over into the other relationship as well. This is inevitable.

7. Your mate never talks to you. You live together but don't interact. He has become cold and inconsiderate of your feelings.

8. Your mate's taste in music suddenly changes. For instance, she always listened to pop music but suddenly starts listening to country music. Your partner might be listening to and growing fond of this new type of music because her lover listens to it.

9. Your mate lacks self-esteem. This doesn't necessarily mean he will go out and have an affair, but an insecure individual often looks to others for guidance. If an insecure person's needs aren't being met, he might find the desired feelings of security and positive feedback in an affair with someone else.

10. Your mate continually criticizes another person. She is trying to make you think that type of individual would never be of interest to her, although there actually exists a secret attraction.

11. Your mate criticizes things about you that he or she once found attractive and appealing.

12. Your mate easily becomes offended at the comments, however harmless, that you make.

13. Your mate stops paying attention to you, your children and home-life in general.

14. Your mate begins closing doors when you are around, when before he or she would leave them open. For instance, the Bathroom-Door Rule: Couples in long-term relationships often leave their bathroom doors open while attending to necessities even if their partners are nearby. As affairs develop, the cheating mates will close bathroom doors, distancing themselves physically and psychologically from their partners.

15. Your mate stops complimenting you on your looks.

16. Your mate stops saying, "I love you."

17. You mate acts guilty when you do something nice for him or her. You are supposed to be the person who is making life miserable and the relationship untenable. By doing something nice, you force the cheater to think about what he or she is doing.

18. Your mate turns the table and accuses you of cheating but has no evidence.

19. Your mate would rather spend time with friends than be with you.

20. Your mate shows no interest in your relationship's future.

21. Your mate stops being affectionate.

22. Your mate is more interested in reading a book or watching television than talking with you or making love to you.

23. Your mate frequently talks about the problems a friend, neighbor, coworker, course instructor or classmate of the opposite sex is having.

24. Your mate begins using new catch phrases or starts to tell types of jokes or express opinions that are unusual for him or her.

25. Your mate pays less and less attention to your children. They seem to sense something is wrong and don't seem to be as emotionally healthy or secure as they once were.

26. Your mate has been acting emotionally distant and withdrawn but when you ask about it, he doesn't want to discuss it and becomes very protective of his privacy.

27. Your mate seems disinterested and distracted during sex.

28. Your mate talks in her sleep and mentions the name of a particular person on more than one occasion.

29. Your mate seems startled or confused when awakened. This uncertainty may be caused by not being sure which bedroom and which lover's bed he or she is in.

30. Your mate's behavior is such that your friends begin asking you what's wrong. Close friends and family members often will notice tension or discord between the two of you before you are fully aware of it.

31. Your mate easily becomes offended when you make normal and natural inquiries and may demand to know why you are checking up on him or her.

32. Your mate's sleeping pattern changes considerably from the norm and may include unexplainable exhaustion, restlessness, frequent nightmares and sleep-talking.

Sweating the Small Stuff

Tue, 02 Dec 2008 19:21:42 GMT

I came across an online article from iVillage titled "11 Relationship Resolutions for 2009" While some resolutions were pretty good, this one caught my attention because it actually can be used outside relationships to help improve your everyday life. You can check out the rest of the article at http://love.ivillage.com/slideshow/love/11_relationship_resolutions_for_2009/post.html

"I resolve to . . .

pick my battles and avoid sweating the small stuff
focus on the positive in my relationship
stop blaming others when I am just as much at fault
stop making assumptions or judgments
stop saying negative things about any of his family or friends (he can reach his own conclusions--my negative views do nothing for our relationship

--cl-pacific_sun

Another Day

Mon, 01 Dec 2008 23:17:26 GMT

I am tired and my hamster bit me today. If I wouldn't have moved my hand away, I think she would have taken a chunk of skin off. Ouch! I tried to take a picture of it but it wouldn't focus that close. My father came home right now and the tongue lashings began. Although it's rather calm lashings. I haven't dared weigh myself but I guess I need to in order to view the damage done over this Thanksgiving weekend. I hoped everyone had a wonderful holiday dinner.

Quick Thoughts on Politics

Sat, 08 Nov 2008 00:28:06 GMT

Ha ha ha! Happy November 7th, 2008! Let's see why we celebrate. First and foremost, I am alive and my body doesn't hurt too much so it's a good day. Second, the sun is out in all it's full glory, warming up the earth beneath our feet. Third of all, We have a new president-elect, Barrack Obama. Honestly, I didn't think America was ready for a bi-racial president but I was proven wrong so congrats to him. Although America was ready for a black president, they were not ready for gay marriages. How sad. We've come so far but not far enough from back in the day where it was illegal for whites to marry African-Americans. Apparently we're still the same America that existed 50+ years. Regardless of how you feel of gay marriage, they're still people and the same blood that runs through their veins, runs through yours. God gave us freewill. How they live their life is up to them. They're not hurting anyone. All men are created equal so let's practice that. Plus, for all those religious folk, didn't God say to love everyone and do not judge? You are all hypocrites. So just chill and let the gay community live their lives. Heterosexuals don't respect marriage like they used to, and I'm sure the gay community will respect it more because it took them longer to get those same rights. So shame on you who voted yes on 8. Equality will exist as long as you are willing to change what is not right. Just because it is, doesn't mean it should be.

A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

Mon, 29 Sep 2008 23:22:59 GMT

This blog entry is not a continuation of yesterday's entry. I'm hoping to finish that very soon but right now, I'm going off on a different tangent.

For a while, I've been wanting to read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, an Oprah's Book Club book. Everybody was raving about it and how life changing it was, I wanted to see it for myself. So I went to my local library and checked it out. Unfortunately, I never got around to it since I was pursuing other interests. Today I decided to open the book and read. I haven't completed the first chapter but I decided to share with you quotes that I have found interesting. In addition to reading this book, I will be observing the classes Oprah has created so that you can get the most out of this book. So here it goes:

Chapter 1: The Flowering of the Human Consciousness

(p.9) They call it maya, the veil of delusion. Ramana Maharshi, one of the greatest Indian sages, bluntly state: "The mind is maya."
(p.9) Sin is a word that has been greatly misunderstood and misinterpreted... so to sin means to miss the point of human existence. It means to live unskillfully, blindly, and thus to suffer and cause suffering.
(p.10) Humans suffered more at the hands of each other than through natural disasters.
(p.12) Fear, greed and the desire for power are the psychological motivating tribes, religions, and ideologies, but also the cause of incessant conflict in personal relationships. They bring about a distortion in youre perception of other people and yourself. Throught them, you misinterpret every situation, leading to misguided actio designed to rid you of fear and satify your need for more, a bottomless hole that can never be filled.
(p.13) You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness to emerge. But it can only emerge if something fundamental changes in your state of consciousness.

To Be Continued . . .

Do I Dare?

Sun, 28 Sep 2008 23:23:38 GMT

Every now and then I'll check my xanga to see if I have any comments. To my dismay, I had not one single comment. I told myself that I was going to write for myself and not how many comments I can get. Apparently that's more true than I had previously anticipated. However, that's how it should be. I should do things for myself and not have my self-esteem be validated by the world. People should like me for me and if they don't, then too bad and get the hell out of my face.

For far too long I have lacked the confidence I needed to face the world. I was letting my fears get the best of me and preventing me from accomplishing all that I know I am capable of. I'm living a mediocre life and that's not the life I see myself living. I need to love myself who I am. The body can be changed but your spirit and personality can't. I need to love myself to make my mind, body and soul strong.

To Be Continued . . .